NEWS AND TIPS
IMPORTANCE OF TRUST (LEADERSHIP)
How important is Trust in Leadership? It's basically so fundamental that it's everything! It is THE most important thing.
To quote Craig Weatherup, the ex CEO of Pepsi Bottling Group:"People will tolerate honest mistakes but if you violate their trust you will find it very difficult to ever regain their confidence. That is one reason that you need to treat trust as your most precious asset. You may fool your boss but you can never fool your colleagues or subordinates"
In order to be trusted, you must have character.
1. Consistency is key, so that people can rely on you and trust you.
2 Strong character means integrity, being authentic (be yourself ) and taking care of your people first instead of having a scarcity mindset and only thinking about yourself. - that way they'll believe in you and support you.
3. You respect yourself and earn respect from others - by giving respect to them, admitting your mistakes and putting your company's goals ahead of your personal agendas.
If you made mistakes and they lost trust in you and it takes too long or too much effort to regain their trust then contact me and I’ll help you shorten that time 100 fold on the spot.
HOW TO HAVE IT ALL IN LIFE
What does it mean to have it all? It means to have everything you want in life, in every aspect of your life. So how do you do that? It's simple: you take a look at the different aspects of your life. 1. relationships - family; friends, work 2. finances 3 career/purpose 4. relationship with yourself (f.e: self esteem, confidence, self image, beliefs/habits) 5. health (mental, physical, spiritual) 6. Fitness. You assess each area separately. Are you happy, fulfilled, satisfied with your physical health, your fitness level, with your relationships at home, at work, etc. If not, you write down what you want to improve. What area in your life, and what are your goals in that area. The next step is: how do you go about making changes? Some you can achieve on a conscious level by making a step-by-step plan and sticking to it. Others require you to change your perception, your mindset, your habits, your emotions around it in order for the goal to be attainable. And that's when your non-conscious mind comes into play. It controls 96-98% of your perception and behavior. Once you control and change that, you're on an autopilot to achieve everything you want. If you need assistance and support along with healing your subconscious on the spot, please contact me and I'll be happy to do it for you.
HOW TO ACHIEVE IDEAL TEAMWORK?
The attitude has to be that team is FIRST, if you want to win and succeed. But In high-performing teams that can be challenging since money, purpose, pride, ambition, ego can get in the way.
These are powerful motivators but they have to be mitigated. The community mindset in an executive/leadership team is crucial.
You can solve any problem if you have the right people on your team! Make sure you do! The best are smart, have grit, they can gut out the tough times with you, learn fast, have integrity, and are loyal.
Commitment & decisiveness are also paramount for leaders- especially when things are tough.
It's hard to tolerate negative feedback but if the members are speaking up in the highest interest of the company, then listen!
Hire a set of diverse talents.
Eliminate gender bias.
Get rid of the elephant in the room otherwise Your profits will suffer. And as a leader, dedication to victory and inspiring your subordinates to live up to their potential are of utmost importance! Please feel free to contact me if you need quick desired results and effortless changes.
PEAK HEALTH AND PERFORMANCE EFFORTLESSLY
Do you know how far we’ve come today with high tech not just in the AI, the computer and engineering world but also in Neuroscience?
Imagine your brain & body as a high tech device like a computer and if someone knows what subconscious beliefs and emotional pain to erase for you, like you delete your files & emails on your computer, they will. And just like your computer functions a whole lot better & faster when you clean it up, so do your mind & body.
All is needed is knowing what the underlying cause of your stress is and how to remove it.
I access your Central Nervous System and pinpoint what has to be removed in order for your symptoms to be eliminated, and I remove them. Your (ANTS) automatic negative self talk will disappear, you'll have access to your gut feeling w/o anything standing in the way, You will know what to do & you'll do them w/o fear; your relationships smooth out, you'll feel confident w/o being arrogant. you’ll just know!
If you don't remove all your negative beliefs & emotions, no matter how much you want to compartmentalize, it becomes impossible to ignore, suppress and live in denial of them. So why not clear them out? You wouldn’t collect your trash in your house for a lifetime, would you? If you need help achieving any of these results, please don't hesitate to ask me.
🔥 BURNOUT
Did you know you don't have to be stuck?
Since burnout develops over time which means it's your circumstances, choices, decisions & your mindset that lead you to it, you can also get free of it.
- It's hard to see solutions when you're stressed out, exhausted, cynical, hopeless, overwhelmed, pressured & doubt even your career choices.
So what do you do?
1. Become aware of your negative thoughts, feelings, emotions, actions associated w/your burnout. Then you get clear on your needs: What do you need to do to feel better?
When you satisfy those needs, (some you can do by yourself, some u delegate) suddenly you feel in control, you stop your negative thinking, you eliminate your fears, anxiety; you stop worrying about others' approval.
In neuroscience research they discovered that asking yourself what your deepest innermost value is the core essence of connecting u to your purpose & meaning, therefore happiness. Optimally engaging in your work is essential
Observe what makes you lose or gain confidence
Key to success-ENERGY!
Schedule ur self-care first! ->Rewire your belief system. YOU CAN DO IT!
IT's your only life: you'll have both internal and external rewards: how you feel (internal)
external: compensation, prestige, title status; and all of that: effortlessly!!! If you want somebody to do most of the work for you so you save a lot of time and energy, please contact me and I'll be happy to do it for you.
WORKAHOLISM
The big question is: what are you addicted to?
Some people love their work, it's their only source of joy.
But most workaholics end up dissatisfied, burnt out exhausted, cynical, irritated, hostile, stressed out, tense, anxious, guilty, angry, disappointed.
They've an inner compulsion to work & it drives their mental, physical, emotional health, their productivity & their relationships into the ground. What's the solution?
2 possible answers:
1. In neuroscience they claim it's a good solution to choose another activity to focus your attention on, like a fun hobby after work...instead of 1 bad habit choose another good one.
2. The other solution is to discover the core cause & reason for that compulsion & eliminate it. Your obsession with work will cease to exist.
At the beginning - fill up the newly freed up hours with some fun activity but since you've no more addiction, you might choose to simply relax.
The most important thing is that you gained back control over your life and now it's your choice what you decide to do.
By the way-The core cause is going to be hiding in your subconscious mind!!!! If you want someone to find the causes in your subconscious and release them for you, please let me know and I'll be happy to do it for you.
CONTRADICTION OF LEADING AND SERVING
What’s the contradiction of leading and serving?
In order to be a good leader you have to serve and give value, right? But how can you serve if you don't take care of yourself? There is a difference between being one of those selfish politicians and CEOs of large corporations who take astronomical incomes, live in luxury and the only question they ask is: what's in it for me?
But it's not just about money, ego and status!
It's also about your mental, physical, emotional, psychological & spiritual health. Without those you can't truly serve or add value to your company, organization, country, society or community, family. And once you took care of yourself you also must remember to take care of those around you.
You add value to people's lives by serving them and helping people feels good - win win!
Treat them as if they were your children.
Get out of your comfort zone, add value, make them part of something that's bigger than them, help them grow- you'll feel fulfilled & they'll show their gratitude by loyally serving you!
If not, send them to me! I'll take care of them. Also, if some fear or anything else is holding u back from being your best, contact me & I'll help to remove the obstacles.
THE ‘TOOLS’ WE USE FOR ‘COPING’
When we act out in unpleasant ways it means we're either suppressing or numbing something, lying to ourselves (consequently to others), live in denial or simply shut down or "forget"
To quote Dr Alex Lloyd:
“Drugs only mask symptoms but don’t really help. Talk therapy frequently makes it worse because it opens up old wounds that your body has been trying to heal.
COPING IS NOT HEALING!
We tend to confuse coping with healing. When I did private practice counseling and therapy, healing almost never happened, but I was good at teaching people to cope. In fact, that’s what most counselors and therapists are trained in. Just about every self-help program I’ve ever seen is full of coping mechanisms”
So, instead of coping or acting out, wouldn't it save us a lot of pain, time and energy to just simply erase our problems and their causes?
Of course it would!
There are certain methods that do exactly that!
You can learn to do some of them by yourself if You have the time & energy or you can choose to delegate & hire someone to do it for you.
Of course, I'm always at your service but a list of others & their methods are for another video.
INSTANT ANXIETY RELIEF
How can we lower our anxiety immediately without knowing what causes it and how to eliminate the cause?
When you panic, it’ll be the last thing you want to do, so at first you’ll resist but neuroscience research says it’s super effective so just try it!
SLOWLY STRETCH AND YAWN!
At first you might have to pretend; repeat it 2-4 times until your brain & your CNS gets it: oh, he’s trying to relax!
Drink water & take 60 seconds.
Next: allow yourself to do something pleasurable: stroke your forearm, move your neck & shoulder around, please do that VERY slowly to increase circulation while relaxing the CNS.
Your brain will send relaxation signals to the your muscles & your negative emotions will also decrease, while stimulating the confidence centers in your brain.
You can tell your brain things that r calming: I’m ok, things are ok, and will work out in my highest interest. Keep repeating it until your brain registers it & you'll start relaxing.
If u've more than 60 seconds, u can take it to the next level & ask yourself WHY you feel anxious, take a piece of paper & write it down with a pen or pencil.
Put away the paper, don't throw it out!
Your brain will register it as a problem solved that it doesn't have to keep in mind any longer.
If you want somebody to do it for you instantaneously, please don't hesitate to contact me!
NEUROSCIENCE: HOW TO PREPARE FOR UPCOMING UNCOMFORTABLE CONVERSATION?
First, take a deep breath and yawn.
If you are nervous then at first just pretend to yawn & repeat it until you can naturally yawn. It relaxes you a bit and you’ll be able to connect empathetically w/ each other.
Second, realize that you’re already on the defense so just relax into it, then turn it off. No need to defend yourself, it’s not a gunfight in the Wild West.
Relax by breathing & loosening your hands, arms, shoulders & neck.
Turn off your bad memories, don’t live in the past!!!
Just be ready to be there with the other person.
Make sure your facial expression is kind and relaxed.
Walk slowly to the “meeting”.
Observe your inner speech: are you pessimistic or scared of the outcome?
Make sure your tone of voice is warm
Speak slowly - it relaxes everybody!
Brevity is key - 10 words or less at a time!
Out of 300 words the brain picks out 8-10 words & not the meaningful ones & we immediately think about how to respond - which leads to miscommunication.
Wait for the reaction - stay calm, don’t get triggered, keep your speech slow, warm at all times.
Listen deeply - observe the other person: tone of voice, body language, use your intuition, not their words, non-verbal cues
If you can remove your triggers and emotional reactions and prejudice in advance, your conversation will flow even more smoothly.
If you don’t know how to do that, please don’t hesitate to contact me and I’ll be happy to do it for you.
NEUROSCIENCE: HOW TO INCREASE YOUR LIFE SATISFACTION AND DECREASE STRESS?
There was a leader of a company, who worked way too many hours. It wreaked havoc on his mental/emotional health, but also on his family. So when he was to told to ask himself “What his deepest, most inner core value is?” in one word, at first he didn’t know, but then he came up with the answer: family. And every time he did that, he got the same answer. So one day it dawned on him: what am I doing being away fro the most important people to me all the time? He decided to change in his life.
If you want to feel fulfilled, happy, satisfied then come up with one word as an answer to the question: What is my deepest most inner core value?
You know, just like a business has a mission statement & everything flows from there? Well, you pretty much function the same way.
If you need help with discovering some core values and issues and want to act on them but don't know how, please contact me and I'll be at your service.
COMMON FEARS OF LEADERS
We are taught that to “feel emotions” is a sign of weakness and lack of strength, so we pacify them with the external desires for food, sex, alcohol, drugs, busyness, and even problems.
● Imposter syndrome
● Consistently pressured to thrive and provide results
● Feel alone/lonely that you are the only one capable of
execution
● Lack of trust in your teammates/colleagues/employees
● Work/life balance (home life is under stress)/ relationship
stress
● Shame/vulnerability as a sign of weakness
● Internalizing stress, and feel like you cannot ask for help
● Feel like you need to wear a “mask”
● Fear of failure
● Fear of the grandeur of success
● Fear of never being enough
● Fear of being incompetent
● Fear of judgment
● Fear of rejection
● Expectation of perfection in your execution of ideas,
projects, and even life
● Feel you cannot stop or take a break
● Fear of not enough time, not enough resources
● Intense anxiety/lack of sleep/imbalanced stress You can get rid of these feelings by becoming aware of your negative self-talk through observation and let go of them through meditation or using techniques like EFT, (The Tapping Solution) etc. If you want to speed up & ease the process contact me & I'll do it for you
HOW TO GET THE BEST OUT OF YOUR PEOPLE
Our primary job as leaders (whether it’s a country, organization, company, family) is to help people perform better, become better by growing and developing.
We’ve to create an environment where they can flourish & do great things.
How?
Through support, respect & trust.
Give them tools, information, training & coaching they need to succeed. Help people achieve their career goals in a way that’s consistent with the goals & needs of the co. org. or family. You hired the best people, so trust them to do their jobs & to make decisions. It means you know people want to be good, do well & you have this strong belief and conviction that they will.
Which leads me to talk about the Pygmalion Effect which says that people tend to do better when they’re treated as if capable of success. You can even indirectly inspire people that way to do better.
Just make sure there’s no pressure or threat behind your expectations because you’ll trigger stress in your subordinates of “having to live up to expectations” that they think they can’t. Simply believe in them & it will serve as an inspiration. Don’t use too much motivation because that evaporates quickly.
If you ever feel for some reason that you’ve trouble w/ support, respect or trust issues in your company or family, I’ll be happy to be at your service & smooth things out quickly.
HOW TO PRIME YOUR BRAIN FOR SUCCESS IN ANYTHING
How do we prime our brain for success in anything?
Of course, one way is to meditate along with Tony Robbins, or we can remove our specific obstacles and then we create our own path by priming our brain exactly for what we want the outcome to be.
We tend to live up to the priming we give ourselves and It’s much more than just positive thinking.
Our actions are fueled by our emotions which emerge from our thoughts. We see everything through our perception filter & we interpret what we see.
The way we think comes from the beliefs in our subconscious mind which is our programming from early life, from picking it up from others, our environment or from traumas.
Even after you stop seeing the stimulus, it continues to effect your subconscious, your environment and your beliefs. The danger with that is that they don’t benefit you any longer in the present but you’ve had them for so long that you’re not even aware of them or question them BUT they present themselves as the truth.
So what to do?
Observe your negative self-talk related to the current problem in your life- make a list, then turn them around, create positive statements - record them and listen to them often. (in the car, bathroom, going to sleep)
If you want to prime your inner voice to speak to you in a positive way you can turn the ‘I’ statements into 'you’ statements.
Your brain will start believing it more easily.
This way you’ll keep your mind laser-focused, help you break harmful habits & how you feel deep within - and that’s what life is about!
You bought your cars and jet and yacht because of how it makes you FEEL, not because you need them.
You’ll regain control over your life and trust yourself again.
If you’re not sure what your negative subconscious self-talk statements are, if you come to me, I bring them to the surface for you, shine light on them & make them disappear like they never existed.
You might be good at high finance or AI or leading a multi-billion dollar company, but THIS is what I AM good at and I’m happy to serve you.
LEADERSHIP CONTRADICTION: GIVE POWER TO GET POWER
How to feel safe & secure while giving power to others?
Theodore Roosevelt said: "The best executive is the one, who has sense enough to pick good men to do what he wants done, and self-restraint enough to keep from meddling with them while they do it.”
If you want to be successful, you’ve to give responsibility & power 2 others. Help them reach their potential, encourage, inspire & support them.
If you are driven by insecurity, you’ll try to make yourself look more powerful, you’ll make others lose but eventually you’ll make them pull you down with them.
You might want to become indispensable by making everybody else look bad around you but that speaks of a scarcity mindset. By oppressing & mistreating others, you are asking others to dislike, disrespect & leave you; along the way you are damaging the co’s success + performance - which people will inevitably notice.
It’s hard for all of us to innovate, grow + develop because it means we have to change.
None of us likes to do that because the brain likes to feel safe & save energy - New means unfamiliar.
If you feel powerful, worthy because you truly believe in yourself, people will feel it and more than willingly follow, serve and support you.
Contradictory but as James Stockdale said: Great leaders gain authority by giving it away.
If you don’t know how to get rid of your scarcity mindset, insecurities and fears, and you want to gain confidence, please don’t hesitate to contact me & I’ll be happy to do it for you.
HOW TO QUICKLY HEAL DIVORCE PAIN
SPEED is everything! Especially for high-performers!
Don’t dwell on it, make the best of everything- we live only once after all. And at this point you probably say: well, that’s easy for u to say.
No, I’ve had my only struggles and pain and problems, so I know it from experience!
Have you heard of Neuroplasticity? It’s the ability of the brain to modify its connections or re-wire itself.
There are different methods out there that you can use to achieve it, for ex. EFT (Tapping Solution), self hypnosis, meditation, positive Intelligence & so on. You can learn any of these yourself.
However, I know from personal experience that we all have blindspots and sometimes we can be in so much pain that we can’t imagine getting out of this place where we feel stuck or stopping the heartache, and at that point you want to get outside help to speed it up.
How?
By recognizing quickly the current emotion pulling you down like grief and delete it like you delete a file on your computer.
Shame? Poof, gone!
Guilt? Poof, gone.
Limiting Belief that all of this have to take a long time? Why suffer? Poof, gone.
It feels so good to be free & move on w/ your life to greener pastures.
To put a smile on your face before you go, here is a joke I found for you… If you want your pain gone on the spot and you want support with finding solutions for the future, please let me know and I'll be at your service.
NEUROSCIENCE: THE WORD NO
Why is it so hard for humans to be positive or nice?
We hold onto negativity w/ tooth & nail & yet our positive thoughts & emotions barely leave a trace.
Why?
Because they don’t threaten our survival.
That’s why we engrave our limiting beliefs into our brain & heart when we’re young & forming that coping mechanism meant our survival at the time.
Now, 2-3-4 decades later we still hold onto them even when it hinders our survival or success. ( We also form new ones along the way - by the way)
Brain scan research shows that seeing (or hearing) the word NO for less than half a second will release dozens of stress chemicals into your body and brain.
What can we do?
I have 2 solutions for you:
Neuroscience research says for every negative thought u have, come up w 3-5 positive ones. Disrupt ur thought pattern and each time u catch urself thinking something negative replace w the opposite. You’ll interrupt the formation of negative memories.
Simply delete/ erase/ eliminate that negative thought pattern so you don’t have to keep working at it.
I know it works from experience.
If u have internal blocks u don’t know how to erase, please know I’m here for you & I can do it for you.
PREVENT HEART ATTACKS- ELIMINATE ANGER/RAGE
How can you prevent heart attacks & even if you know how, why don’t you?
Perhaps you don’t think it can ever happen to you or you don’t want to do the things it takes to prevent them, or you don’t know what else you can do besides the preventative measure you’re already taking.
Besides healthy diet, sleeping enough, reducing stress, doing sports, etc. there’s ONE more thing you must do to make sure you don’t get heart attacks and strokes or related issues.
Eliminate your anger, rage & other mental/emotional issues that you don’t pay much attention to because you just shrug it off…. like whatever, that’s just part of life or it’s how I grew up, I've always had it, or I know that I have it because of my childhood & there’s nothing I can do about it.
Yes, YOU Can, & it’s not “whatever”. Last year 17.9 million people died of cardio vascular problems, 85% of them were of heart attacks!
It’s equally as important as the other factors.
Have you ever been so angry that ‘it made your blood boil”? Instead of boiling inside bring it down to a simmer or cool it down to a peaceful satisfying existence.
Getting angry occasionally is normal, what’s risky is the long term rage & other negative emotions you hold onto.
The truth is anger can trigger physiological changes that affect your blood, it can trigger a heart attack a stroke or risky heart rhythm.
Since I don’t talk about anybody else because most things are private I’ll bring up my own example.
As my mom passed away when I was very young, I ended up with a very mean stepmom who constantly criticized me, put me down, tried to oppress me, making sure that she turned my delightful nature into a rageful one.
By the time I was a young adult I was so full of rage, that I was literally scared of either hurting others & ending up in prison or hurting myself or both. I had no idea at the time that it was possible to get rid of that. ( I never believed in talking to a psychiatrist)
It was not until a couple of decades later that it all turned into depression when I finally sought help.
So when I say that the methods I experienced on myself and I trained in, actually work, I’m telling you the truth because I’m living proof.
All the reasons for your persistent rage or negative emotions live in your subconscious mind and even if you consciously know what caused it, it won’t help you, until you actually let go.
The subconscious mind isn't logical
-it’s the feeling mind
-it’s much more powerful than the conscious mind
-it has all the control
-it doesn’t deal with logic
-it responds to powerful words
-if you don’t run it, it will run you
-and if you let it, it will run you to the ground.
SO DON”T!
WIN your health back!
WIN over your negativity!
WINNING IS WINNING - VIN DIESEL
Please, stop hurting yourself and either ask for help or learn to change your subconscious mind and emotions. (I talk about that in another video)
I know you don’t like long therapy and analysis, it’s not necessary. Do it fast and efficiently. SPEED is everything!
Don’t waste your time and energy on rehashing things a million times.
Good luck and I’m always here if you need me.
Have a safe, productive, happy day, much love!
QUIET YOUR NEGATIVE SELF TALK, ENHANCE YOUR MOOD
Do you ever catch your mind criticizing or judging you or others or your circumstances?
Believe it or not it’s something that happens to all of us, whether you are consciously aware or not.
The quickest and easiest way to quiet it at least to some extent is to become aware of what it’s saying and toss it to the side as just the negative voice in my head and rewrite it to the opposite.
Dwell on that opposite statement and start feeling it as you’re expanding on it.
I FEEL GOOD, I FEEL GREAT, I FEEL WONDERFUL... (What about Bob)
If you change your physical posture on top of that to match your positive statements, your emotions will follow.
Another way I discovered to change my mood for the better is to listen to audio recordings that change your brainwaves. The two companies I know are Equisync and Centerpointe but you can also look for some on YouTube and I’m sure there r many other companies out there. I don’t like the sounds so I lower the volume to the point where I can barely hear it but I know it’s still reaching my subconscious, then I sit down to work or go for a walk. In a few minutes I forget that I have anything in my ears and all I notice is that I’m more creative and I’m in a better mood.
Remember!: We act in a way that's consistent with how we define ourselves. Every thought you think has a physical & emotional reaction so you might as well think good thoughts- that way you dialog with your mind in a way that guarantees good results!
When you grab a cold drink, think, “Almost as cool as I am!
Have a safe productive and happy day!
If you want to wipe out your negative thoughts from your subconscious on the spot, please don't hesitate to contact me so I can do it for you.
MAKE THE RIGHT DECISIONS, BUSINESS INTUITION
Who ever heard of Gut Feeling and Intuition in Business, right?
I know you’re taught to analyze problems and make decisions based on logic - and intuition is very different - it’s using neurons found in the insular and anterior cingulate - same areas where you process social dilemmas and spirituality.
Intuition transcends logic + reason & the more you tap into the creative processes of the brain the better you’ll become at making the right decisions.
Stories affect us mentally & emotionally & in a brain lab they showed how viewers’ brains resonated with the emotion they saw & felt on the screen. We sense the other person’s intentions - our innate ability to see into each other’s minds - our empathetic resonance with somebody’s experience.
If you sense the other is phony, you tune out but if he looks into your eyes you’ll pay attention & feel more trusting.
Often you meet potential business associates & you get a gut feeling in the first 30 seconds whether you can trust them or not.
You feel their energy immediately & know if you’re drawn to working with them or to avoid them.
How do you use your gut feeling when facing an important business decision?
A few different ways, I’ll only list 3.
U still remember the yucky & the yummy feeling from childhood. Something hits u right, u know it!
Ask big-picture questions: get the hawk’s eye view, not rabbit’s view - don’t get lost in details.
Pay attention 2 ur gut feeling, everything can look great & perfect on paper but if u feel this hesitation coming over, then u know it’s time 2 move on or change things around.
Toss a coin - when it lands implying a certain outcome, how do u feel? Relieved? Disappointed?
Sometimes you might not trust yourself and don’t know if it’s your intuition or just other voices in your head.
So what to do then?
If it’s critical or judgmental - forget it!
But If you’ve no negative reactions to it & your thoughts & feelings don’t jump all over the place, it’s right!
Your intuitive voice is calm with the inner knowing: Oh, yeah! I knew it all along!
The next time you ask what should I do, just remember: you already know. The real question is: why you are not doing it.
The next question you might raise is: and how can you help me t get access to my gut feeling & intuition to answer my questions?
I’m trained and talented in accessing your central nervous system & your subconscious mind, I can remove the blocks you have to your intuition. After that you automatically get the answers that are only right for you and nobody else.
Have a safe, productive, happy day.
HOW TO "SAVE TIME" AND GET THINGS DONE IN LESS TIME?
How can you save time and get things done in less time? There are a few things you can do:
Plan! By spending 1 hour planning, you save 8-10 hours of doing things aimlessly.
Learn to do what you are doing more effectively. Manage your events smartly and effectively in the time that you have. Organize, prioritize properly to get the most and best results out of your time. We always talk about ROI? The investment here is not money (although time is money) but investment here is your time and energy.
If you don’t manage, plan, organize and prioritize effectively, you lose time and you end up overwhelmed, burnt out and anxious and sometimes even confused and as with most workaholics - you’re not able to concentrate which leads to more waste of time.
Sleep enough and have enough time off to recuperate.
Allow your partners or employees to do the same - in order to be creative and to concentrate, you need to have mental and physical vacation.
Have a system for managing goals and make sure your boundaries are kept strong and healthy: say yes or no and make decisions according to your goals and priorities.
Develop daily constructive rituals and habits - it should be something devoted to your goal but also something pleasant so it’s easy to adopt them.
Absolutely focus on your goal for that day or week for a few minutes and get creative about how to achieve them. In order to stay on track, write down the goals and the plans, organize them into categories and then prioritize them from most to least important.
Be productive: 20% of what you do yields 80% of results!
When the list becomes too long and overwhelming, ask yourself which activity can you do and which one to delegate (hire some professional), do it later or never.
If you have any emotional, mental or psychological obstacles in the way of achieving what you set out for yourself, either meditate or use tools to eliminate them or hire somebody to do it for you so you can get back on track quickly.
It’s all about time and speed without stress.
If you need any support, expertise and help with your mindset clearing and obstacle removal from your life, don’t hesitate to contact me.
Have a safe, productive and happy day!
NEUROSCIENCE OF SURPRISE AND HOW TO USE IT TO YOUR ADVANTAGE
The neurological event of surprise causes an instantaneous transformation in someone’s belief system. Not the birthday party kind of surprise or a date night surprise for your wife.
The kind that will cause the mindset of that person to be altered : triggers inspiration and alters their perspective about themselves completely, something that profoundly effects their life. So it’s about something internal (not about the outside world)
We humans are hardwired to make sense of our lives, our environment so we can predict things in order for us to feel safe. It kept us alive for thousands of years to learn instantly when we got surprised.
When you get surprised, your brain interprets it as a sign that in your predictable world suddenly something is not working anymore and if you want to survive, you’ll have to adapt immediately. Which means you’ll have to rewire your belief system in a New York Minute.
Here’s how you can inspire change in your people around you for the better: when you notice something about somebody that is not necessarily a positive trait, you can give them a compliment about it rather than criticize them for it.
If your kid is slow, tell them they’re thorough and precise. It will shock him and this new belief will drive his brain to find and create new evidence to support it.
Get creative and start honestly complimenting people - not for their looks or something superficial but for their “negative character traits” by turning them into something positive. The change in the person will take place in a matter of milliseconds but the long lasting effect is forever.
It’s very hard to change other people’s beliefs - this is your chance!
The shock of surprise brings instantaneous change and you bring out the best in your people at the same time! Win-Win!
If you have any stress in your life with any relationship in your life, please don’t hesitate to contact me so I can resolve the issues for you.
NEUROSCIENCE: WHY IS IT HARD TO LIVE IN THE PRESENT ?
Why is it so hard for us to live in the present that we have to write books about it or have to mindfully meditate? Guess what!
Neuroscience research shows that our mind is never present!
It’s always in the past or the future - imagining things and making decisions. You’re constantly pulling up memories from the past and mixing it with fantasies and predictions about the future.
In a conversation, for example it can be about what our partner might say next, or how I should respond to what I’ve just heard. When you’re talking with someone you actually have to make an effort to pay attention and be present.
And if you really want to see and experience things, when you travel for example, you have to mindfully really observe, not just slip by.
Bring yourself into the present in the morning to have a happier and more productive day effortlessly by mindfully yawning and/or meditating. It can be a minute or 10 minutes or longer - whatever is the most beneficial for you.
If you need any assistance with mental and emotional pain, I’m here to be at your service and please contact me through email or my website.
I want you to thrive and make the best decisions for yourself, your family, company and our society.
Have a safe, productive and happy day!
HOW TO CHANGE YOUR CIRCUMSTANCES?
What does it mean when people say it all starts with you?
And how does that relate to your life?
First of all, What you believe about yourself will define your reality.
Secondly, our thoughts and feelings radiate from us & back to us.
People pick it up from you and you do that all the time as well w/o even noticing it.
Have you noticed something as simple as when you smile at people they’ll either smile back or become more kind with you than before?
When you consciously choose your inner self dialog, you change your circumstances as well. No ifs and buts. Just focus on the positive because your subconscious can’t handle 2 conflicting thoughts at the same time.
So just create your ideal feeling, ideal thought, situation & people with no ifs & buts, eliminate the conditions, negativity & subconscious mind chatter and observe how things start changing.
So it all starts with what’s going on in your head.
Most importantly, you make ALL your decisions based on your belief system and your inner dialog. So it might as well as be something positive, pleasant in order to bring about things in your highest interest.
If you need help with changing your subconscious inner dialog on the spot, please contact me through email or my website or LinkedIn and I’ll be happy to do it for you.
Have a safe, productive and happy day!
LIMITLESS LEADERS: REACH YOUR POTENTIAL
How to be a limitless leader who reaches his potential?
by getting educated
by becoming emotionally intelligent and developing your intuition
by shedding everything from the past that’s holding you back
We humans love to live in the past because that’s all we know and it’s what’s familiar. The unknown and uncertain future is scary. Change is scary. But it doesn’t have to be.
The best example is trauma from earlier times in your life (perhaps even your childhood). You know why?
Because unless you were abused or traumatized in some violent way that’s hard to miss, you won’t even fully recognize that fact that you went through something that your brain registered as trauma and now you’re paying the price by the hidden, subconscious negative effects of that trauma, limiting your life & success.
The worst is the repetitive trauma that creates repetitive thoughts and it can define and take over your thoughts and your whole belief system.
Our brain is primarily driven by emotional experiences & we’re never fully conscious of those experiences.
So what to do to fix this?
Rewire your brain!
If you feel fear or anxiety or something is standing in the way of you doing what you really want to do, it’s time to examine it and flip it around.
Living in fear causes stress that we know stress causes millions of health problems, and limits you. Your repetitive negative thoughts define your inner world and that in turn prevents you from doing what u truly want to do.
It can be about trust, confidence, relationships, money or anything else.
It all starts with your decision to change!
Your brain is neuroplastic, it can change & take on a new structure. You have to create and strengthen your new neural pathways!
You have to alter your thinking, which feels strange at first because it’s new but since you’re aiming for something positive and sg u want, it won’t be that hard.
Every time you catch yourself saying something negative to yourself turn it around and say the opposite.
Doing this once its’t going to do any good, the same way going to the golf course once and swinging the club 10x won’t make you a pro.
Repetition and habit are the key!
This takes a bit of time by you can do it by yourself.
Have courage to be authentic, honest and true to yourself, shed your limitations from the past and step into the future limitless!
If you want to speed up the process, I learned how to remove your negative thoughts and emotions and unwanted subconscious memories and programming from a shaolin master so feel free to contact me and I’ll help you reach your limitless state very fast.
You can reach me by emailing me or on LinkedIn or here, on my website. (Contact)
AUTHENTICITY
The question for today is:
Do you want to be a wise and authentic leader and how?
When you know deep inside that you’re doing the right things, you’re on the right path, there’s an inner unshakable strength you’ve about you that everybody feels when they’re around you.
Most people love that, people naturally follow people who are stronger than them. You don’t even need a title for that.
That deep inner strength comes with the power of you daring to be your whole true self and be proud of it.
It naturally brings consistency, which means people will trust you because you’re predictable, reliable, trustworthy and they feel safe around you.
When you are authentic, you don’t feel like you have to project an image that is other than the real you, you feel safe and comfortable in your skin and you know you’re good enough the way you are to be liked and accepted for who you truly are.
Keys to being an authentic leader are:
-trust and believe in yourself
-have integrity, be honest with yourself as well as with others
-be authentic - be yourself, don’t play a role or pretend you’re someone else
-have discipline - do the right thing, no matter what!
-communicate with openness + sincerity and connect with others to build relationships - go out and talk to your subordinates.
People can tell when you’re not being yourself. Then they try to figure out why and that leads to distrust.
-also, give people around you tools to do their job better (it can mean your subordinates or children)
-help them achieve their personal goals
-develop them as leaders or hire leaders around you to make your life easier
-add value to people’s lives around you, including sharing the success with your team or company employees.
- Lead with your Heart - don’t be afraid to dig deep and lead with courage and empathy. I know some misconception and prejudice are going around that people who are warm are incompetent and those who are cold are competent. But pure cold intellect is just one side of the coin - and it won’t give you followers or the right answers you’re looking for.
- Focus on long term results and don’t be bogged down by temporary setbacks (in some cultures I don’t even have to mention this but a lot of western countries are very short sighted.)
- Self awareness : know your strengths and weaknesses, delegate if needed and hire someone to crush your fears so you can focus and maximize your strengths
- Be transparent as much as possible (everybody has secrets) but open the communication lines and be yourself in public pretty much the same way you are in private. (and if you consider that not good enough, hire someone to effortlessly change it for you)
If you have any fears, reservations, worries or issues with achieving any of these aspects, most of the time it will mean that deep down there are negative self-image, self-esteem and self-confidence problems that will have to be addressed and changed so you can thrive and become a confident, wise and the best leader.
The human mind is naturally programmed to be negative and cautious, therefore we have to quiet that part of our mind.
If you can do it yourself with meditation or mindfulness techniques or tapping, then please do, because it will make or break your career as well as your health and relationships.
If you don’t have the time to do it, then please hire somebody to do it for you. I’m always at your service and don’t be shy to ask so you can reach the sky!
NEUROSCIENCE: DAYDREAM: USEFUL TECHNIQUE FOR FINDING CREATIVE SOLUTIONS
High achievers are always on the go and we get high on being busy.
But we also have to get things done and when it takes time, we get into a stressful and frustrated mindset.
Neuroscientific research shows that if you take 60 seconds once an hour to do anything that’s pleasurable to you (stretching, massaging your face, move your joints in circular motion to enhance circulation and avoid getting stiff, massage your hands or feet or arms, anything you enjoy), the dopamine that is released from your motivation center in your brain will allow you to work harder and more efficiently to achieve the goals you desire.
Pleasure actually increases consciousness and eliminates negative emotions like fear & frustration.
After you take a pleasure break, or whenever you feel stuck, let your mind wander and daydream for a couple of minutes.
This allows your brain to creatively find solutions to any problem without you pushing or forcing yourself.
Observe how your thoughts and feelings flow in and out of consciousness as you remain deeply relaxed.
If you find it hard to relax or dream or meditate please don’t be shy and contact me for some assistance. I’ll be happy to be at your service.
EVER LOSE CONFIDENCE? SELF-ESTEEM VS. SELF-ACCEPTANCE
Are you dependent on constant performance and achievement for self-respect and self-validation?
Are you highly focused on external success but think that you have no use or need for deeper emotional life or relationships?
And the relationships you have you want to use for furthering your success?
Are you competitive?
Are you good at covering up your insecurities and weaknesses in order to create a perfect public image?
Do you keep people at a safe distance in order to make sure that they don’t discover that you’re not perfect?
These are all signs of a high-achiever and thank you for being ambitious and making the world go around and getting society to move forward!
The only reason I’m making a video for you regarding this issue is to help you in order to make you feel better & give you the solutions how to avoid destroying your health by becoming a workaholic, lowering your self-esteem by clinging onto external accomplishments as a condition of your satisfaction and happiness - because .… guess what? Glitches happen, setbacks happen.
And believe me, I hate them too!
Most ambitious people do. We want results!!!
But! Here’s the key: if you don’t measure your self-worth based on money or certain accomplishments, but you fully accept yourself unconditionally, then when setbacks happen, you still think the world of yourself and not only do you not pull yourself down, you don’t pull other people down with you and you just keep going like nothing ever happened and instead of wasting your time with misery, you find inspiring and creative ways to find gift in the setback and make the situation even better than it had been before.
You’ll look at it as a gift of the Universe giving you a sign to go in another direction to get even more successful.
But that takes full acceptance of yourself - the good with the bad and using the bad for something good. It’s all about mindset, honey!
Use meditation, mindfulness techniques, Tapping or any other method you like to dig into your subconscious, retrain and rewire your brain, so you don’t put conditions of happiness on your external accomplishments.
If you don’t have time to do it, hire somebody who can, and please know I’m always at your service. Please contact me by email, my website or on LinkedIn and I’ll be happy to help you make the adjustments needed.
NEUROSCIENCE: REACH YOUR (BUSINESS) GOAL
As you already know, the immensely popular activity of creating vision boards isn’t enough to achieve success.
And there is not a single research study to support the premise that positive thinking will help you achieve worldly goals (however, it is essential for building self-esteem)
Gabriele Oettingen is one of the leading researchers in this field.
In different studies it has been shown that positive fantasies alone impaired a person’s ability to do better on a test, to find a meaningful relationship, or to acquire a sought after job.
But if the person had a strong positive expectation, coupled with a clear vision of the obstacles one might encounter, they were far more likely to achieve their goals.
When expectations of success are low people postpone or abandon their wishes, but when expectations of success are high, people more fully commit to pursuing their goals.
Brain scan research also shows that constant focusing on a positive future – like creating vision boards and meditating on them – lowers the brain’s motivation to work toward those goals. When you feel the pleasure of an imaginary success, some parts of the brain assume that the goal has already been achieved.
It’s a good thing only when you consider that fact that when it finally shows up, you won’t be surprised or scared to take advantage of it, you won’t sabotage yourself.
Visualizing your goal and the expected outcome, visualizing obstacles to achieving that goal, and mapping out a step-by-step plan to achieve that goal are all important steps – AND studies showed that a person would be more successful if they had an accountability partner on top of all that.
The two things you need:
-to be highly motivated and
-love what you do.
Have anticipatory expectation that stimulates your brain to work harder, even when difficult obstacles stand in your way.
So try this exercise right now:
Take out a sheet of paper and write down one specific goal you want to achieve. Visualize or imagine what it feels like to achieve that goal. Now write down one obstacle that can interfere with achieving that goal and visualize it in any way you like. Don’t let negative emotions flood in; just mindfully observe that obstacle without judgment.
TRAUMA (WE ALL HAVE IT) AND ITS EFFECTS
Why would a high achiever be ever interested in trauma, especially with a mindset coach?
High achievers are ambitious and charge ahead and tough it out and think they can suppress and forget about trauma in their lives and most of the time think that they haven’t even had any.
What am I talking about?
Trauma can have millions of forms and sometimes you wouldn’t remember a small event and you are not aware of the fact that your brain and mind registered it as trauma.
And that’s the sneaky, dangerous one. Years, if not decades later you end up having diabetes or a heart attack or kidney problems, anxiety/panic attacks or just making the wrong decisions at work driven by your hidden fears, limiting beliefs and weaknesses.
Trauma affects our innermost sensations and our relationship to the core of who we are.
It fundamentally changes the way our mind and brain perceive ourselves and the world around us.
It also changes how we think, what we think about and it changes our capacity to think!
It’s not about what happens TO you, it’s what happens inside of you as a result of the experience.
The lingering memory inside of you can become triggered by something in future experiences. (circumstances or sensory input - and how your nervous system interprets from your environment.
As a high achiever you don’t like to be powerless or out of control.
So what you can do is change a victim mentality into a victor mentality.
Victim mentality of the trauma: it was the event that caused this to happen TO me or to be like this. It makes you feel powerless.
Victor mentality of the trauma - it was the perception of the event that caused the trauma but I can turn it around and say: the event happened FOR me to be able to… and now I understand my power to create my own reality. It’s about what wisdom I gained from it.
Emotions and Thoughts affect your Physical Body just as much as you Physical Body can affect your Emotions and Thoughts!
Stressed or anxious?
Your body chemistry changes, and it tells you something is not right. Blood pressure rises, you hold your body in tension, etc.
Greater pain is related to emotional stress and limited emotional awareness , expression and processing. We are not taught how to navigate the emotions - we are taught to suppress, cover it up, - working more, going out with our friends more, alcohol, other substance abuse, anti-depressants, bury it with anti anxiety meds, sleeping more, emotional eating habits.
Move through your emotions!
So instead of your emotions mastering you, you master them!!!!!!!!! Gain emotional intelligence!!
Also, learn to dig up the negative thoughts, emotions and experiences from your subconscious mind and move through and remove these negative emotions and thoughts from your body, mind and spirit.
There are different techniques you can use at home and on your own if you have the time. If not, go to a professional to get much faster results.
Your brain can be rewired and changed, your way of thinking and perception can be changed and so can your associated emotions. Once you change these, it will help you automatically to change your habits and before you know it you are not only a much better person who is healthy again like a baby, and gained his true inner self back again before all the traumatic events happened in his life.
The methods you can use are numerous:
learn meditation and about neuroplasticity from Dr Joe Dispenza: The Power of Thoughts and Emotions on the body;
learn EFT Tapping from Nick Ortner;
NeuroLinguisticProgramming,
Breathwork to calm the vagus nerve, journaling,
body mapping,
Palming,
Timeline Therapy,
Resonance Repatterning,
learn self-hypnosis from Marisa Peer,
get massages: I get neuromuscular massage therapy regularly - it’s sooo good.; exercise: cycling, yoga, golf, polo, lift weights, swimming, connective tissue exercises by Essentrics and 20 million other forms...
Please make sure you take care of yourself, others around you and allow the others to take care of you as well.
If you ever need any help to eliminate any residual pain from the past or trauma, please don't hesitate to ask me, I'll be happy to do it for you.
HIRING A COACH/PERSONAL CONFIDANT - YOUR BENEFITS
Your mindset determines everything you do and feel and all your choices and decisions in your life.
It’s the basis upon which you build your whole life. It effects your good or bad habits that bring you the results you want or repels the very things you want in your life.
The mindset coach is there to identify and remove your conscious and subconscious negative patterns of thought, behavior and habit in your life so you automatically stop suffering, you stop subconsciously bringing things and people into your life you don’t want or getting the kind of results you don’t want in your work and life.
Therefore, Mindset coaching does many many things for you, including eliminating psychological stress and blocks to your goals,
change your undesired circumstances, situations, relationships, people in your life,
your perception,
and eliminates the accumulative negative effects of traumas in your life.
It helps you to leave harmful habits behind and pick up pleasurable, useful and beneficial ones.
It erases fears, anxiety and panic from all aspects of your life and helps you to have self-acceptance which in turn allows you to be authentic- you allow yourself and others to see you for who you really are without shame or guilt and it eliminates the stress of having to fake an image that will stress you out and destroy your relationship and career when you can’t fake it any longer and you get exposed.
The absolute fulfillment of “ I feel so good in my skin” and be successful and be appreciated for who I truly am is priceless !!!
It improves your finances and brings the right answers and choices for yourself, your family, your health, your living situation, your company or country to the surface from your subconscious by eliminating the blocks that stand in the way of you accessing them.
Life is always an ACTION - REACTION, CAUSE AND EFFECT and a Process.
It all starts with your mindset. And your mindset is everything.
The secret to changing it is recognizing that ~90 % of your thoughts and actions come from your subconscious mind. When you learn how to access it, change it and control it, you rewire your brain so that instead of it controlling you and your life, you control it and it puts you on a path where you thrive instead of just survive.
If you don’t have time to discover what’s sabotaging your work performance or your relationships or your habits regarding your health and life in general, please don’t hesitate to contact me so I can do it for you.
Wish you a safe, productive healthy and happy day and life.
CONFLICT TRANSFORMATION, NEGOTIATIONS
There is always a creative solution to any conflict but as humans we are driven by emotion which makes it much harder to look for that resolution or creative way out of the current situation.
At first I will tell you how I work so you understand what brings fast and desirable results and then I will teach you a few things that you can do by yourself.
-I uncover the underlying and true sources and causes of what led to the situation you are unhappy with right now. (Some of it is going to be your & others’ emotional reactions, subconscious limiting beliefs, thoughts and sensations, emotions like fear that I will have to dig up what those fears are of and remove them - if there’s any kind of bad karma in that relationship then that will have to be removed along with all those fears and thoughts and emotions and reactions and triggers and that will change your perception as well.)
Once I remove all of those for all parties involved, at that point everybody is calm and neutral - and now all the creative ideas can flood in to find a solution that you would have never seen otherwise before.
Before you know it you will forget you ever even had the problem with each other in the first place.
The formula works every single time!
No exceptions!
What can you do by yourself?
To make our lives easier let’s prevent conflict in the first place.
Conflict develops over time by allowing your emotional reactions and certain behaviors to take place and dominate the interpersonal interaction. It is the result of a chain of events-so in order for that conflict not to become full blown, prevent in the first place. How?
Identify and proactively transform negative emotions and impulse to fight flee, freeze for fawn when we perceive differences and don’t let it escalate.
If you don’t want to get fat or sick for example you prevent it by not eating junk food or fast food and you’re always physically active and you keep moving and you take care of your mental and emotional health and you get massages, balance your hormones etc. etc. etc. it’s the same thing when it comes to conflict. Don’t let it get to the point where it goes kaboom.
-The second thing I would mention is that it’s good to know yourself and know how you respond to conflict.
There are five different conflict styles: competing, accommodating, compromising, avoiding and collaborating.
When you are involved in a conflict, instead of getting pulled into it and create infinite amount of fear, frustration, anger and stress make it your intention to resolve and stop wasting your life on BS. How?
Stimulate your brain's natural plasticity, shrink the fear center (the amygdala) and strengthen your prefrontal cortex that is related to social connectedness, resilience to stress and cognitive functioning.
You can do that with breath work or
the Tapping Solution (EFT emotional freedom technique).
Recognize your own fears worries and other negative emotions prevailing in the situation. Then if you can, try to do that with the opposing partner. It’s very empowering to know what are the emotions driving the conflict and standing in the way of a resolution- and as you become aware of it you take a lot of its power away!!! It's a process.
As a result, you will start calming down, Yawn, stretch, keep calming yourself even more, do some more tapping, and as you do, start to feel empathy for yourself (not self-pity), just empathy. Then do the same with your opponent, which is hard when you’re mad at somebody but the more you understand him and the less angry you are, the calmer you are, the more sure it is to resolve the conflict. If you have a hard time having any empathy for your opponent, just imagine them as an innocent three year-old.
When you are in a discussion:
With the intention of not losing your cool and staying mindful, use compassionate communication.
Which is not speaking loudly but quietly, instead of choosing faster and excited pace, keep it slow don’t growl or accuse or assume. Instead of becoming rigid in your body stay flexible and fluid. Keep your cool prefrontal cortex active the whole time. No fear. Stay present, quiet your inner voice so you can pay attention to the opponent.
For positive brainstorming ask everyone involved to focus on the positive. Here is what I mean. Everybody can come up with ideas, most of them are not very good or acceptable at first, but as a rule, find some thing good in it.
Even if it’s 1% or 5% or 10%. But something. And then… Add another idea to it. That made me think of… What I like about that idea is… Don’t throw it out completely! Don’t criticize it or resist it! Find something inspiring about it. Before you know it people will jump on the positive bandwagon.
Another method for dissolving conflict is stating how something or somebody makes you feel.
There might have been some kind of misinterpretation or miscommunication and this will clear things up. Also in the middle of the discussion if you feel under attack instead of allowing yourself to be taken over by your fears, worries and anxiety and your amygdala to be activated, become increasingly calm and centered which will allow you to laser focus all your energy on one action at a time, without wasting any time and emotional energy (which is money!), and on being stressed and scared and disappointed.
Just deeply relax and become laser focused on the action. Command your mind and your brain to do that by mindfulness exercises that you can do even in the middle of a meeting, like wiggling your toes, rubbing your fingers together and focusing on the sensation. Run your thought up and down your middle line your spine from head to toe. Stare at your opponent and find one tiny detail on his skin or hair to focus on visually, or listen to his tone of voice, or focus in on some distant sound etc. It only takes a few seconds, & your brain is already giving the command to your mind and body to take the focus from your negativity to your solution and you will instantly calm down. It takes some practice but it’s super simple.
My dear gentleman attitude Is altitude.
Remove triggers negative emotions and misinterpretations, stay calm, know what you want and always know that there is a solution!
VICTORY ✌️ FOR LIMITLESS LEADERS
True Leaders never accept failure or defeat as a final result. Even if you fail temporarily at something, if you’re a real leader at heart, you’ll find a way to win and never give up.
You might have to change your course at times and adjust, you might make mistakes, but just like when you take a wrong turn on the road, and your GPS reroutes you immediately, you’ll do the same. There is no such thing as failure. There is no such thing as a mistake. It’s a blessing in disguise. You keep charging. You find out what the blessing and the gift is in the seemingly unfortunate situation and you find other ways to go at it until you win.
The world would be a different place if Churchill had given up. To quote him: what is our aim? I can answer in one word: Victory - victory at all costs, victory in spite of all terror, victory, however long and hard the road may be, for without victory, there is no survival."
And it’s not just winning for yourself, if you have a company or a team, it’s about finding a way for the team and the company to win. There is no Plan B. There is no alternative to winning. With that mindset, you embrace the vision and make sure you share that vision with your company and team - because all of you have to be on the same page in order to win! Are you dedicated?
Well, dedication is not enough sometimes. Sometimes all the strategy and plan and clarity and strong will aren’t enough - if it’s just too much hustle, too much stress, there are too many obstacles in the way, too much opposition, you might have an underlying attitude that you have to suffer and struggle and work too hard to make things happen, there might be some mindset issues subconsciously standing in the way. And at that point I’d suggest getting some help and support to make some changes so things can flow effortlessly!
But never give up! There is always a way and a true leader never accepts defeat as the final result.
MENTAL FITNESS FOR LIMITLESS LEADERS
In order to be strong physically, it’s not enough to be super muscular, right?
We have to be flexible, and we need our joints and tendons and ligaments to be strong, lubricated and flexible as well in order to support those big, shortened muscle, otherwise you’ll barely be able to move and that’s anything but fitness.
In order to be fit, we need strength, endurance, flexibility, agility, speed and coordination.
Physical strength is one aspect of strength, but in order to be truly resilient in life, so we can bounce back from any mishaps, we need the same kind of strength, endurance, flexibility, agility, speed and coordination mentally and emotionally too, so we don’t get dragged down by the external circumstances which can be followed by negative internal self talk, which can not only bring you down but your partners, company and family, too.
Instead STAY ABOVE IT ALL!
Keep your amygdala calm and activate your prefrontal cortex as many times during the day as possible.
Activate your intuition to make the right decisions.
Do mindfulness exercises or Meditation and most importantly observe your internal Dialog because more than any external circumstances, that’s going to have the most powerful influence on you.
It’s difference between winning and losing.
BRILLIANT (BUT DIFFICULT) EMPLOYEE?
Are you having a hard time dealing with that narcissistic and eccentric employee that you don’t know if you should fire or re- wire?
And there you go! Most leaders and managers think they have to “manage” these difficult people like people think they should manage their anger.
But by trying to manage someone’s ego, you’ll be always fighting an uphill battle and you’ll always lose, and you’ll always have to be on the lookout when are they going to act out again.
The truth is you can just hire somebody to rewire their brain, eliminate the underlying causes of his so called misbehaving, so he can change effortlessly and stop disrupting the team and the company.
You can do a financial analysis if it’s worth spending any money on him to keep him. If he keeps innovating and bringing you $ 2 , 5, 10 million and you have to spend $250,000 on someone to change him, is it still worth it?
Also, retrain him to become one of your leaders- after all, you multiply your results by surrounding yourself with leaders who take the load off of you.
If you have any questions or if you want assistance with your difficult employees, please contact me and I’ll be happy to be at your service.
GET YOUR RELATIONSHIP WITH
MONEY RIGHT!
In a lot of cultures money is a taboo subject and so is sex, politics and religion but when it comes to business and leadership there are times when we have to deal with and talk about money.
In fact, even in your own life you have to have a relationship with money for obvious reasons and what’s interesting and annoying and fabulous all at the same time is that it’s a relationship that lasts forever. You can break up with and run away from your family and friends but you will always have some kind of a relationship with money.
It infiltrates and runs so many aspects of your life. So it’s worth getting it right.
But how?
You examine your way of handling, earning, spending, saving, investing money and see what reactions, triggers and sensations come up for you, what are your emotions around dealing with money.
We make money decisions based on what feelings get triggered 😤 in us in certain situations which gives money its emotional meaning to us and inevitably these meanings turn into our beliefs about money over time.
The feelings that can get triggered are unlimited like lust, hostility, rage, jealousy, insecurity, control, fear of loss, fear of loss of control and we can use it to show off, we can use it to communicate or manipulate.
If you want to find out what your beliefs are about money in order to be able to change it for the better just look at your behavior around money and observe your emotions and feelings.
What you say you believe might be very different from what you think you believe but what really reveals what you truly believe is what you do.
Actions speak louder than words.
In order to change your money story for the better you have to look at it what it is peel back the layers really deeply and explore the root feelings that lie behind, draw it out in the open and make the changes accordingly.
Take a good look at the hidden reasons and release them as something not relevant anymore. You live a certain money story and you shape a certain relationship with it.
Meditate 🧘♀️ or do tapping to uncover your underlying emotions, negative experiences and limiting beliefs about money so you can release them, be free of them and change your behavior around it, therefore change your life.
OVERCOME FEAR OF CRITICISM AND DROP THE NEED FOR APPROVAL AND PRAISE
I remember that when I was young, my father preferred to point out the mistakes I made rather than anything I’d done right. He wasn’t the kind of person who loved to praise his kids. As a result I’d wanted his approval, until I grew up. There is no denial, it feels good when someone likes you or what you do or being recognized by others around you. But honestly, unless your livelihood depends on them, it does’t matter what they think because their feedback doesn’t really say much about you, it says more about that person who is giving you the feedback.
Your view of yourself is the only thing that truly matters, the effect of the fleeting praise will not only fade but might actually make you crave more of it. You’ll start depending on other’s positive feedback and when it goes away, you’ll be left with a void, or self doubt or self criticism. As you want more of that approval, your fear of not getting it again might drain you.
Our brain is biased towards remembering the negative. It has to do with survival. So when we hear criticism it sticks with us more than praise because it hurts and we hold onto those experiences because our brain is programmed to want to survive.
But we can overcome that by rewiring our brain with the latest neuroscience discovered techniques so we don’t get bogged down by the negative emotions that accompany criticism from others or our own self-criticism.
What they discovered, and you can learn these techniques from Positive Intelligence, that are based on neuroscience research is that the negative self talk takes place in your right prefrontal cortex part of your brain and to quiet this part, you can talk to it: thanks Mr. Critical Judge but no thanks, you’re wrong and I see you think this is going to help but I got this and the answer is actually the opposite of what you’re trying to convince me of. After turning down the volume on the left prefrontal cortex, turn up the volume on the right prefrontal cortex, your inner optimist: mindfully engage in positive self talk and turn around the very thing you were thinking negatively about before. Now that you are more positive, ask questions and think of positive answers and solutions.
The best way to handle feedback is staying emotionally neutral, getting detached from praise or criticism, practice mindfulness without judgment, listen to the feedback, then examine how much or what exactly you can learn and take away from it. Whatever you think was valid, take credit for it and enjoy it.
Always remember that negative feedback hurts more when you resonate with it because internally it hits a nerve because on some level you believe the very same thing about yourself. You’ll find it hard to move on and stop thinking about it or feeling bad about it. At that point relax, if you meditate, go into meditation and discover what caused that belief, what are the negative emotions around it and release them. You can use the Tapping Solution, you can learn mindfulness techniques, or learn Positive Intelligence.
If you want fast results and make all of this really easy on you, please contact me and I’ll be more than happy to do it for you. Looking forward to meeting you.
HOW TO HEAL FROM LOSS AND GRIEF
Healing from loss and grief alone and on your own takes effort and time and a lot of pain. I’m here for you to shorten this time and release you of pain on the spot but if you want to do it alone, I’ll give you some techniques based on neuroscience research to help you get through.
Mindfulness is one of the first things you can do for yourself. As you feel the pain of loss or grief, you’ll automatically want to move or run away from it because it hurts. But if you want it to leave faster, you’ll have to do something that is counterintuitive: which is face it. It’s natural to feel scared but at this moment, there is nothing to be scared of any more. Relax your nervous system by yawning 3 times, and start mindfully observing different parts of your body. Move your toes or rub your fingers together while observing the sensations. Once you feel calm, just observe your thoughts as they float in and out consciousness and the emotions and feelings that follow. Just observe them and let them go by. Don’t judge them or try to run away. The more you sit with them, the more they dissipate. It’s a strange phenomenon but it works. The more intense the pain the more often you can repeat it. Become curious about what’s taking place inside of you and about the situation that cause you the grief.
Think of a positive memory of your loss or grief and if any fear rises, touch and caress your arm or leg in a nurturing way. Pleasure and pain together will confuse your brain and will decrease the painful emotions immediately. Now savor these new sensations, knowing that you are embedding these positive thoughts and feelings into your memory of loss.
Become mindful of your breathing and start breathing deeply and calmly. Shallow constricted breathing goes hand in hand with stress, anxiety, fear. Concentrating on your breathing will also take your attention from your grief and it will interfere with your brain ruminating on pain. If your attention wanders off, just bring it back to your breathing.
A bit more physical activity is dancing and singing. When you feel sad and lethargic, the last thing you want to do is dancing because dancing will automatically will make you happy. But just start moving your body slowly and gently and little by little you’ll loosen up. Put on some music and start feeling the rhythm. I suggest you look up Essentrics from Miranda - fantastic for your whole body.
You can make a movie in your mind and watch it as an observer or audience. You are the star of the movie and instead of reliving the painful experience that caused your grief, now you observe it as an outsider. See what emotions come up and just let them move through while you feel love for yourself. No blame, no judgment.
Play and laugh. Playing reduces anxiety and stimulates the pattern of positive feelings. They did different studies about humor therapy and they found that there were significant decreases in pain and perception of loneliness, and significant increases in happiness and life satisfaction. You can create a safe space or environment for creativity and play and laughter - arts and crafts or physical sports with friends. Happy physical actions send messages to the brain that help you to stay present and positive. Invite a few close friends over for some compassionate conversation where you can just feel relaxed, together and supported.
HOW TO TRANSCEND PAINFUL MEMORIES TO PERFORM OPTIMALLY?
There are a few ways to learn to transcend your painful events and their memories. Of course, I want to let you know that I’m here for you if you don’t want to suffer and take a long time to get over your pain but if you want to do it on your own, I’ll give you some techniques you can use at home.
Some of them are easy and some of them are not. I’m going to list a few here that are not hard.
The one I’m going to describe here is a mindfulness meditation type one that is based on neuroscience research. Also, there is the Tapping Solution that is proven to be very effective, as well as Positive Intelligence (which is also based on all the research that they have done in their neuroscience research studies).
The main objective is going to be identifying and releasing your painful emotions, associations, memories, sensations, feelings and residues of those emotions.
If we don’t, those painful memories will continue to disrupt our wellbeing, diminishing our performance at work and at home.
Despite what a lot of people believe, memory is not a permanent compilation of past events, they can change, especially if we recall them in different situations and ways. The secret to transcending it is changing the negative emotional charge embedded at the time of the trauma, therefore into the memory. That way we can use our conscious mind to reprocess the unresolved emotional issues from the past. If you do it right, it’s safe.
It’s not about reliving the past, it’s about disrupting the emotional content, and the memory might still be there but the emotion is gone so it no longer influences your life in a negative way. Step no1 is to completely relax, yawn, stretch, put your mental awareness on different parts of your body so you almost go into meditation.
Think of a positive value in your life that makes you feel good: love, peace, trust, For me it’s harmony. Now think of a recurrent memory that you want to work on, stay relaxed and watch the movie in your head what happened. Stay mindful and aware of what you feel in the present being different from the past, you might feel anxious or depressed, out of control or insecure. Just observe these feelings and sensations without judgement. Move around gently, yawn, relax and repeat your value word. Your brain is already working on trying to make sense of the confusion that this is causing. You’re disrupting the negative memory.
Now ask your intuition for an insight, what can you learn from the painful memory that can be useful for you in the future? Remember: this is just a memory from your past that is stored in a tiny part of your brain.
Now give yourself a self-nurturing pleasurable touch, like caressing your forearm and the pleasure will disrupt the pain in your brain, you’ll start feeling safe and secure. If not, open your eyes and remember that it’s just a memory. Breathe in safety, breathe out fear. Now feel like you’re watching this whole movie in your mind and you distance yourself from it. Feel like it’s a distant memory that you don’t feel attached to anymore. The more you do it, the more neutral you become, the more it will become nothing more than an unmemorable event because you’ll feel nothing.
DON'T HAVE A PURPOSE? FIND ONE. FIND OUT HOW.
I understand that when the business you’ve built or inherited runs itself without you now, you might feel like there is no reason to get out of bed or go to work. But the truth is, you can do everything you do with purpose, or simply find things that you love doing not just with purpose but for a purpose. Since you don’t have to worry about survival and paying the bills, you can do it comfort and luxury, with no worries. If it bothers you, you can afford to hire somebody to do it with you and for you. That’s the beauty of having money, it buys you the services that provides all the high-end and best solutions and results. If you prefer to take your time, simply learn how to re-wire your brain therefore change your thinking, emotions, feelings, clean out the unnecessary and harmful thoughts and emotions from your subconscious that are limiting you and holding you back. You can learn Positive Intelligence or the Tapping Solutions, or self- hypnosis or many other mindfulness techniques.
What I suggest you might want to to start with is just a simple exercise, where you completely relax your nervous system and yawn, stretch and close your eyes to absolutely forget about the outside world and all the problems and worries. Ask your intuition what’s the one word that is your innermost core value in life (that makes you happy) It can be anything that pops to your mind, like peace or love and just feel how that radiates positive energy in your body.
You can take it further and think of all the things you do and hobbies you have or work that you enjoyed doing, that makes you absolutely happy and when you’re in your element. It has to be something inspiring and playful for you.
Then ask yourself if there is anything you can do with any of these that you could help some people with. One thing will lead to another, trust the process. The one thing that will truly get you off and running in the right direction is when you find a goal that is bigger than you. Something that in some way will change the world in your eyes. Things will become meaningful, will give you a sense of purpose and having an impact when you live into an ideal of involvement in something bigger than yourself.
There might be a lot of things blocking you in your subconscious and that you’ll have to remove either by doing it on your own or by hiring somebody.
Remember, if you have money, you have the world at your feet and you can not only find purpose and live your life with meaning but do it with ease and speed because you have all the resources to do it with.
I want you to know that I’m always here for you, feel free to contact me and I wish you a productive, happy and healthy day!
LIMITING BELIEFS
Would you ever put limitations on yourself willingly and consciously if you knew they were going to harm you in the long run? Most likely, no! Do you believe some dogma on purpose to ruin your life? Most likely you accept some because it’s very much part of either your culture & your external circumstances, right?
But some developed as a survival mechanism when you were young & just like you take your trash out of the house regularly, if you don’t clean up your limiting thoughts and emotions on a regular basis, they’ll start to stink and clog up your life, space and career.
Why?
Because those thoughts served you well in the past to survive but they’re not necessarily valid for your current life anymore. If it wasn’t hard enough work to become aware of the old (and by now carved into your subconscious mind) limitations, how about the ones you form along the way throughout life?
It’s always the same process to keep your mind and heart clear: become aware and toss it. Here’s an example: There was a manager that worked a bit too much because he was conscientious. That in and of itself wouldn’t be such a huge problem as long as he knew how to unplug and take time out. But the truth is, you can take a break from work but the inner voice in your head doesn’t stop because you’re on vacation.
YOU have to stop that inner voice!
This manager had a lot of this inner monologue going on that was negative and self-destructive. There came a point where he knew he needed help because it became alarmingly exhausting and leading him down a dark path. It turned out that among other things like “I’ll never be good enough”, and “The more I do, the more they’ll expect of me and I’ll have to constantly prove to them and myself that I’m good enough”, the most destructive voice said: “You can’t love yourself unless you work yourself to death.” Just imagine how an internal voice that plays like a broken record in the back of your mind telling you that you have to work yourself literally to death is going to effect you!
THIS is the very reason you need to keep cleaning house as long as you live: to become aware of any harmful thoughts and emotions so they not only don’t drag you down but you allow yourself to thrive!
If you need help with recognizing the underlying, hidden causes and sources of your seemingly inexplicable symptoms, please come to me and I’ll be happy to dig them up and remove them for you.